Sankofa Song video blog – Episode #3: You can be all of it

A short rant-ey rap about me-ness.

And Buddhists who love death metal.

And even though I don’t channel Phil Collins this time, there is a celebrity appearance involved.

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20 Responses to Sankofa Song video blog – Episode #3: You can be all of it
  1. Sue
    August 26, 2010 | 1:35 pm

    Thanks for sharing your experience. This is something I have been thinking about alot…what to share, what not to share, especially related to my story of how I got to be to where I am today. And I’ve finally come to the realization first of all that since I’ve spent the majority of my life hiding out from who I am and not wanting to let people know who I am, and since I am actively engaged in not hiding out any longer to myself or to others in my personal life, why in the world would I want to not be myself in my professional life? What kind of skewed thinking is that? Oh, I can give you all sorts of answers for that, too, but really….geeeeez.
    I had an opportunity to really tell my story on another blogger’s blog recently, and it was totally powerful. The sky didn’t come crashing down, I didn’t have to hide under the covers for a week. Cuz really, all that fear is rooted in the past and I just want to be right here. right now.
    Thanks for your encouragement. We all need to hear this stuff.
    ♥ Sue
    .-= Sue´s last blog ..Mandala of Sacred Hearts =-.

  2. Mary
    August 26, 2010 | 1:41 pm

    A good message for all of life – not just bidness. So cool to see your take on it. I for one love those seeming weirdnesses when they rub up against each other like 2 cats gettin cozy. So much potential cool born outta in that place. Scads of writing around this very thing.

    Says the mystic scientist

  3. What the hell!

    How weird is this? I just blogged about it. You just blogged about it. @jmoriarty did too. So did @earthskyandsea all wrote about it too.

    Clearly going to add links to all of these posts to mine.

    WEIRD. Cosmic message? Some conflicting?
    .-= Kelly-Authentic, Relevant, Organic Networking´s last blog ..Mixing The Business “You” With the Others =-.

  4. andrea
    August 26, 2010 | 3:05 pm

    right on brother!
    .-= andrea´s last blog ..love bomb =-.

  5. Catherine Caine
    August 26, 2010 | 3:06 pm

    Always a thousand times YES.

    By the way, my guideline for keeping it relevant no matter what is to always have a point that relates to my readers. So I can write about playing WoW, as long as I include something that my people will benefit from in some way.
    .-= Catherine Caine´s last blog ..Review- Earn More by Finding Freelance Writing Jobs Online =-.

  6. David Cohen
    August 26, 2010 | 3:07 pm

    Yes! Yes! Yes, but…

    As the math nerd turned artist/entrepreneur/programmer/web designer/product manager/brand therapist/marketing strategist/doodlist I love this message! It fits right in with the magnet and filter idea I like to talk about – be confident and clear about who you are and those seeking you will be drawn to you like a magnet, and those not into that particular mix of wonderful will self-filter — the clarity ends up saving you (and them) time, confusion and possible aggravation.

    We’re not one dimensional, there is more to each of us than a title on a business card. And thank goodness! However a business card only has so much room, a pitch made in an elevator or standing up at the chamber of commerce has a time limit, people have a lot of their own stuff in their heads and even with the best of intentions and until you’ve given them cause to care they are going to have a hard time digesting a big multi-course meal of you if you don’t give them a chance to chew on that banquet a little bit at a time.

    Clarity in communication comes from focus and an awareness of the context in which you are presenting yourself. This doesn’t mean don’t be yourself, but instead know yourself well enough that you can adjust to the context and provide a portal that welcomes and invites someone to give you their interest and their most precious resource, time – time to get to know you. None of us became the wonderful complicated beings that we are overnight – we can’t expect someone to appreciate all that marvelous complexity overnight either.
    .-= David Cohen´s last blog ..When the wiring goes wrong – a cat’s tale =-.

  7. Mr. Pants
    August 26, 2010 | 3:08 pm

    I’ve been reminded of this three times today. I’m sure there’s a cosmic reason. Someone on another plane is nudging me (ow. quit it. ow. quit it. ow.). Well, you’re on *this* plane, but…

    …ahh digressions. Fun for me, not for you. Leaving it in.

    I totally identify with this. I’ve read so much blogging advice of the “stick to your topic” variety that any time I start to stray I immediately censor myself. Ow. Quit it.

    Funny thing is, I get the most emails, comments, and thank yous on posts where I forced myself to write about something more personal, less “designery” and more… me.

    That should tell me something, but still… censorship happens. Hard stuff.

    My two-year old boy has no censor setting whatsoever. He is just 100% him. No apologies, no explanations.

    I’m trying to follow his example.

  8. Joely Black
    August 26, 2010 | 3:11 pm

    Yes! Just watched this with James the Dancing Geek.

    I was recently told off by somebody for having a Twitter name that wasn’t my own name and in another case for not tweeting like a professional, presumably somebody who would spend all their time just tweeting out “buy my book” over and over again.

    Well, there’s more to me than “buy my book”. It’s free, so that wouldn’t work! Part of the joy of doing what I do is sharing all of me with the people who want to get involved in my life and my work.

    So it’s a joy to see this and be reminded that it’s much better to be yourself than try to be what somebody else says you should be.
    .-= Joely Black´s last blog ..Amnar Serial- 30 I Hope He Makes It =-.

  9. Scott McDowell
    August 26, 2010 | 3:26 pm

    Word!

    I love the part about the om-y chanting.

    Anyway, yeah I can relate to this and this message would have affected me profoundly a few years ago when I refused to even tell people that I was on the radio playing free jazz and noise and early electronic composers and shit that no one likes and thinks is so weird (or so I felt). Which now I understand is one thing that people are most interested in! Those days are over, thankfully.
    .-= Scott McDowell´s last blog ..The Cloak-and-Dagger Club aka Your Very Own Personal Advisory Board =-.

  10. Linnea
    August 26, 2010 | 3:27 pm

    I am the original stargazing, logical, emotional, detail-oriented, short-term-memory-challenged, bleeding-heart snarky person. I am nothing if not a contradiction. It is what it is.

    But, as the lifelong denizen of an extremely status-quo Southern city, I feel as if I stifle a lot of myself in my day-to-day life. Giving that up will be my birthday present to me. I just decided.

    We enjoyed it, as usual.
    .-= Linnea´s last blog ..rubbing the sleep from my eyes Full Sturgeon Moon Dreamboard =-.

  11. Bridget
    August 26, 2010 | 3:31 pm

    I love the people who get me and think that I’m awesome, and when I try to be somebody else, I epically suck at it. It’s epic, the suckiness.

    I’ve been kicking this idea around and want to write about it more:

    It is a privilege for people to see us as who we are. It is not a right.

    It is a right for us to be who we are. It is not a privilege.

    I think, somewhere in there, is the answer. I want to show who I am, and I don’t want people making fun of me or not understanding or being mean to me. And I especially don’t want that weirdness related to my business.

    And sometimes it’s hard. I show the parts that are relevant. I mean, I’m a deeply spiritual person, who is obsessed with sailing and also likes terribly inappropriate jokes.

    Am I going to tell the joke about why Santa Claus doesn’t have any of his own children on my website? I’m not.

    But where sailing relates to business, I’m all over it, because those two relate to me and my clients.

    So, I’m looking for conjunctions between my interests and my business. And I’m finding that my interests are points of connection for my clients. And I want that. And so do they.

  12. Wulfie
    August 26, 2010 | 4:14 pm

    This so hit the mark with me today (and yesterday and six weeks before that). I was going to go blog about something like this but stopped at Twitteroo for a sneak peek, since I supposed to be on a twittercation. Saw this and popped over.

    I’ve been struggling with this forever. Most of the ‘how to’ sites say to have a brand, topic, focus and all that. I tried it and EPIC FAIL. Why? Because I felt like a fake. I’m not just one thing, I’m a whole mess of things…sometimes a messy mess of things. And leaving those out…OUCH!

    So thanks for this. It was great.
    .-= Wulfie´s last blog ..The Blithering Starts Here =-.

  13. Patty K
    August 26, 2010 | 5:09 pm

    I’m attracted to people who show their “youness” (themness?) in their stuff. Whether or not I have the same interests. I believe that revealing who we are shows that we’re human, approachable and interesting. I find myself getting bored (and quickly) when people stick too close to their topic and refuse to stray into the personal.

    Thank you for continuing to model being your own particular brand of awesome!
    .-= Patty K´s last blog ..Introversion and shyness are NOT the same thing! =-.

  14. Lisa
    August 26, 2010 | 7:04 pm

    YES YES YES! Plain and simple and everything it needs to be and nothing more.

    This is how I strive to live, this is what I base my vocation (my voice in the form of business) on.

    I adore this video and adore you – anyone who can live this (ohm-y stuff and then air guitar?? Oh YEAH) and share the message has my love.

    You definitely have a new follower. Hopefully many many others take their permission slips with them as well.
    .-= Lisa´s last blog ..Lisa Learns How to Make a Video =-.

  15. LisaG
    August 26, 2010 | 9:04 pm

    Insert big sigh of relief. I have been going back and forth and back and forth about this. Where does my smart ass self fit in, how professional and polished do I need to be, etc., etc. And as a result there’s been a big -open mouth and nothing comes out- on my blog of late. Thanks for the permission slip 🙂
    .-= LisaG´s last blog ..Welcome to the World =-.

  16. Rosaland
    August 26, 2010 | 10:55 pm

    Fabeku,

    I love this! Thanks for the ‘permission slip’. I have struggled with this since I started my blog. There are so many things I want to talk about but was struggling with what I ‘should’ write about. Silly. I have resisted the urge to start one or more additional blogs, sorted by interest, you know. But I decided the other day that one, I don’t really have time to manage more than one blog the most important part two, is that my blog is who I am, all parts of who I am. So now, I can walk my path in a more real way. And I’ll talk about whatever I’m in the mood to talk about, the artsy, sometimes mean, sometimes nice, sometimes nerdy, etc. parts of me. I’m just going to have to subscribe to your blog. Good stuff. Thanks!

  17. Elana
    August 26, 2010 | 11:34 pm

    2 things

    Awesome -> You
    Ridiculous and perfect -> Boy George finale

    Guess what?

    I actually sent it today.

    I hope you like.

    Peace and love my Omey Homey : )

  18. Carmen Torbus
    August 27, 2010 | 7:54 am

    Beautifully said. I was just having this conversation with a client earlier this week. (In fact, she brought this post to my attention.) I’ve been finding myself telling people (and really… myself) a great deal lately to, “Be you… and rock at it!”

    Thank you for validating this. I’m going to share this with my peeps!

    xo & belief in all things you,

    Carmen
    .-= Carmen Torbus´s last blog ..Sharing my Vision =-.

  19. Fabeku
    August 31, 2010 | 3:42 pm

    Hey peeps!

    @Sue – First off, big yays for telling your story! And extra yays for doing it and realizing that nothing bad happened. That’s HUGE! And awesome.

    @Mary the Mystic Scientist – I love the idea of good schtuff being born out of weirdnesses-that-rub-together-like-kittehs. Sweet!

    And I totally agree about how this idea pretty much fits anywhere. And everywhere. For sure.

    @Kelly – I think there must be something in the water. Looks like this has been a hot topic lately. Which is cool.

    Because it’s also a big topic and an important topic and something that a lot of people trip over in really ouch-ey ways. So yay for lots of discussion!

    @Andrea – Thanks you!

    @Catherine – I think you’re totally right on relating it back to your readers. That’s smart!

    And I think, sometimes, putting something out there just to put it out there is cool. Sometimes people just want to connect, to know more about who you are. Which is kind of awesome.

    @David – You are the most fabulous math nerd turned artist/entrepreneur/programmer/web designer/product manager/brand therapist/marketing strategist/doodlist I’ve ever met. Really.

    I couldn’t agree more with your magnet/filter idea if I tried. I am with you 100%. That has been totally and completely true in my experience.

    I also think you’re right about how sharing different stuff in different places makes sense. To me, each of these different places is like a different container. And they can hold different things.

    A business card is a different container than a blog or a quick chat you’d have with someone at a party. So right on about the context thing.

    I think the really exciting thing is that you can be you in all of these different containers. One container may give you more room than another. But being able to rock your you-ness across the board is awesome and delicious and powerful.

    @Mr. Pants – I’m glad you left the plane thing in. Because it made me laugh. Out loud. (The real kind. Not the fake LOL kind.)

    Ugh. That censor thing is so hard. I’ve bumped into that gnarly critter a lot. With its poke-ey spines, bad breath and mean look and that wagging you-totally-shouldn’t-say-that finger. Yuck.

    Isn’t it awesome that people really response to the schtuff that’s infused with you? I love that. And that has to be a sign that there’s some good mojo there.

    And right on for following your son’s lead. Methinks there’s much smartness there!

    @Joely & James – I love that you two were watching this together. LOVE.

    It blows my mind that someone would care enough about someone else’s Twitter ID to criticize it. I mean, unless your ID is @iclubbabysealsforfun who gives a shit?

    But I bet you’re right. It just doesn’t fit with their definition of professional. Which is totally fine. Since it’s not your definition.

    And I’m betting that one (of a million) reasons why so people love you and your gorgeous writing so much is precisely because you are you. And you actually show up on Twitter and hang out. Which rocks!

    @Scott – I’m glad those days are long gone and that you can enjoy the stuff you enjoy and feel free enough to talk about it.

    The first time I read your blog you were talking about sacred flute music from New Guinea. I knew right then you were seriously rad.

    @Linnea – That first sentence might just make the best bio ever. And I love a good contradiction. Especially when it comes wrapped in so much awesome. Like, you know, in your case.

    And not stifling yourself as a birthday present? I love that. A lot. Go you!

    @Bridget – Sailing and inappropriate jokes! Yay!

    The privilege/right thing is interesting. I’ll have to chew on that a little more and see what shakes out.

    Like I was saying to Catherine, I totally agree about the conjunctions. I just wonder if sometimes we (the collective we) don’t narrow down those possibilities a little more than we need to.

    I know that I’ve found myself thinking this thing or that thing is a connection-ey thing, when, really, there are so many other things that really rock the connection too. Like there are way more options than I see, sometimes.

    @Wulfie – I hear you. I got splattered by epic fail too when I tried to stay on message and weed too much of me out of stuff. Not fun. Not interesting. Not effective.

    @Patty – I totally agree. I’m the same way. I want to know who people are. Not just their message or their tagline or their company schtick. I want to know the person.

    I’ve realized that pretty much every single person I hire has a lot of you-ness in their Thing. That’s really important to me.

    And when it’s not there, I’m like you. I get bored out of my mind and usually stop paying attention.

    @Lisa – Right on! I’m pretty sure that the more comfortable we all are with ourselves and the more of that we show in our life (and relationships and businesses and and and…) the more gorgeous the world gets. So yay you for living it!

    @LisaG – Ergh. Sorry about the nothing-coming-out thing. That’s hard. Yay for the sigh of relief though!

    And, for what it’s worth, there are few things I love more than a good smart ass. Really.

    @Rosalind – Here’s a big woot! for putting all of you on the blog. I’m betting that’s exactly what will give people a full view of your awesome.

    A couple years ago I wrestled with the whole separate blog thing. It felt totally overwhelming to me. And totally suck too. But it was a big enough obstacle that it kept me from doing anything for a minute.

    So go you!

    @Elana – I capital-L love that you loved the Boy George finale.

    As nerdy as it sounds, I kept fast forwarding to that part of the video, pressing play and laughing hysterically every single time.

    And Omey Homey is cool enough to make my head go *boom*.

    @Carmen – Good advice! I think it’s pretty hard to rock at being anyone else. But, oof. How many times have we (again, the collective we)tried that? So hard. And so so suck. Thanks for sharing the post.

    And big thanks to all of you for the goodness + smartness + awesome you all drop here. Chocolate + lurve for everyone.

  20. Catherine Morgan
    September 13, 2010 | 8:19 pm

    I loved this video and I absolutely agree. As a coach, people buy “me.” I have heard it enough and I get it. I have a video of me dancing tango in Buenos Aires on the bottom of my bio page on my website. I figure potential clients will resonate with the fact that I understand their dreams no matter what they may be. AND they definitely remember me. Lots of people comment on it.

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