One Secret. Three Questions.

Life is a song.There are some things I just know in my bones.

Stuff that rings so deep and so true that it regularly rocks my world.

One of those things: life is a song.

Always there. Always playing.

Whether we’re paying attention or not.

But that paying attention part is super important. And so delicious.

Because this song tells us exactly where we are.

Which might not be where we think we are.

And where we need to be.

Which may or may not fit with our plans.

And what we need to get there.

Which might totally surprise us.

It’s like instant feedback.

Anywhere. Always.

But it’s more than that.

It’s feedback that carries weight and clarity and magics.

And it’s ridiculously reliable.




Almost freakishly so.

And wise.

Yes, that. So much of that.

And the cool thing about this song is that it’s so so simple.

A basic melody.

Not a lot of words.

But the words that are there matter a ton.
So pay attention.

It’s never hard to find the song.

Or to tease out what it’s saying right now.

We just have to listen.

And today my song is saying:


I’ve been extra busy lately.

And today I’m tired. In that to-the-bone kind of way.

So when I sat down to write what I planned to write, I couldn’t.

Today isn’t the day to write the thousand word post that’s swirling around in my head.

Maybe that’ll happen tomorrow. Or next week.

But, right now, I’m listening.

And paying attention.

And resting.

There was just enough juice in the tank to share the secret about the song.

Short and sweet.
Yeah, that works.

So there it is.

Oh, wait.

One more thing.

The most important thing.

An invite to tune in.

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath.

And just ask these three questions:

Where am I?
Where do I need to be?
What do I need to get there?

Ready. Set. Go!

What is your life saying to you right this second?
Were you surprised?
What’s next based on this feedback?

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10 Responses to One Secret. Three Questions.
  1. Joan Bright
    February 10, 2011 | 11:42 am

    “Rest” was very loud yesterday! Day off for a change, no midnight shift to go in for and felt very disappointed that I didn’t get more done…but I apparently needed to sleep, go to the drum circle that was postponed from last week and come home and relax. Didn’t get going as early as I thought I should this morning, either, but my nose is trying to clear, as are my lungs (again) and I don’t want another upper respiratory infection this year….so trying to go with the flow.
    Love the “song”…it is so true. Mine says I am where I am meant to be, – for now – and that the next place is around the corner and I don’t necessarily have to “muscle” it and “make it happen” (this reminder is a frequent one that I need to hear! so it’s a somewhat familiar melody). Don’t strain. Enjoy the good things. Look at the positive changes in your life over the last several months and BELIEVE that this is the trend! that things are getting better…your choice of companions, your choice of living situations, and eventually, a choice of a love relationship and a choice of a job that fulfills and leaves some space for developing a practice, too, even! That I can have what I want. Really. Thanks for this reminder, Fabeku…when I’m in a drum circle I can hear the melody just under the sounds…other times, I lose track of it. I’m listening again and for that, I thank you from my heart!

  2. Bridget
    February 10, 2011 | 12:00 pm

    The voice for me, today, was “Get your ass off the internet.”

    Solitude. I needs it.

    I like how accessible these questions are, when asked simply, and when we listen for an answer.

    Okay, now going offline.

    Much love to you and yours-

  3. Leila
    February 10, 2011 | 12:43 pm

    I haven’t been able to think or feel creatively much this last week or so…Too much rolling around inside and out and emotional tiredness and eeyuuu…

    So my note to myself has been rest, slow down, do the basics, do little. That’s allowed. This won’t last forever!

    Thanks as always for the wise words and the timely reminder

    Leila x

  4. Molly Gordon
    February 10, 2011 | 2:14 pm

    Lovely, Fabeku.

    Today my song is saying, “You are enough. You have everything you need to be who you want to be and do what you need to do. Your part can be simple, darling. Be gentle. Be perceptive. Show up.”

    That I can do.

  5. Christa
    February 10, 2011 | 8:10 pm

    You, my friend, are just a treasure.

    Thank you…

  6. Elizabeth
    February 10, 2011 | 11:43 pm

    In this moment, my song is saying that I am momentarily out of flow. To get back in, I need a walk, then yoga, then a book. With that, I am off.

    I think these questions will help in many more moments. Lovely.

  7. Amanda
    February 11, 2011 | 9:12 am

    My life is saying – you will accept yourself when you stop valuing the invaluable.
    We can never evaluate ourselves, we are priceless,
    of inestimable worth to The All.
    Was I shocked- YES
    What’s next- Everything

    Thank you

  8. Fabeku Fatunmise
    February 11, 2011 | 5:45 pm

    Hey beautiful peeps. Thanks for listening + sharing. Totally appreciated, always.

    @Joan – Don’t strain. I dig that. A lot.

    @Bridget – Solitude FTW! I hope you have some totally delicious unplugged time.

    @Leila – Right on. That sounds pretty perfect to me.

    @Molly – Yesyesyes! That gave me chills.

    @Christa – Thanks for the kindness.

    @Elizabeth – Walk + yoga + book. Go you!

    @Amanda – Fabulous! And my favorite part? This: What’s next- Everything

  9. chris zydel
    February 13, 2011 | 4:18 pm

    Thank you my dear friend for getting to the core of the matter once again so surely, so sweetly, so simply. Every time I read one of your posts I notice that I start BREATHING again. And I remember what’s really important.

    Sending you mucho appreciation for being such a beacon of light and grace in my life.

  10. Fabeku Fatunmise
    February 13, 2011 | 8:28 pm

    @Chris – Thanks you. Totally appreciated. And yay for breathing!

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