In The Fight Or In The Flow?

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Anything worth having is worth fighting for.

Right?

I mean, how many times have we all heard this?

I’ve heard it all my life.

It’s been repeated about a billion times by pretty much everyone I know.

It’s one of those things that I just assumed was gospel.

Because, you know, everyone says it.

But lately this idea isn’t sitting so well with me.

Something about it feels off.


Do you smell that?

You know how all of a sudden you smell something funky, but you don’t know what it is or where it’s coming from? So you start walking around trying to find the unidentified source of funk?

It’s kind of like that.

I’m trying to ferret out the funk here.

So I started thinking about this whole worth-fighting-for thing. The idea if something’s awesome you should naturally want to fight for it. And that somehow fighting brings you more awesome.

Wait.

What’s that?

Oh, hi cognitive dissonance. Fancy meeting you here.


Aaaand cue the flip flops

When I look at my life, the biggest awesome has never happened because I fought for it.

I’m not talking about working hard or focusing or maintaining my groove. Those things have totally helped usher in some gorgeousness.

But fighting?

Never.

But then my mind starts to do yeah but flip flops all over the place.

Yeah but what about all that ack you had around getting this site up? And how you fought your way through it to get it done?

Or what about when you were really, really sick for like four months? And you fought like hell to get better?

Or what about when you’re really scared to do something? And you use all your strength to just push through?


So. Not. True.

Hmmm.

These are good questions. Maybe my flip-flop-ey mind has a point.

Or maybe not.

Because none of that stuff happened because I fought anything.

The awesome happened because I got lined up with something that was way bigger than the ack and the sick and the scared.

I got plugged in to those deeper inner bits. The parts that don’t need to fight.

Because they get that there’s nothing to fight in the first place.


Givin’ it the old college try

But, man, did I try.

I tried to fight the ack and the angst and the resistance around getting this site done for like a year. Every single day I was in the ring, gloves laced up, swinging my ass off.

But it didn’t help.

Not only did it not help, it actually made things worse. Because it just gave more energy to the ack.

The harder I pushed, the harder it pushed back. The longer I swung, the more exhausted I got.

Fighting just turned up the volume on the suck.


Wipe outs and bruise-ey bits

Then I started to think about the people I know who have repeated this worth-fighting-for rap over and over and over again.

And they’re totally frakking miserable.

All of their energy has gone into fighting.

So even if awesome did show up on their doorstep they’d be too wiped and too bruised to even enjoy it.

Uh, what’s the point of that?


Mouth guards? Gah.

Then I started really thinking about how this worth-fighting-for stuff has affected me.

Ouch.

I totally see how it’s turned everything with the potential to be awesome into a fight in my head.

So whenever I’m about to do something awesome, I am immediately gearing up for a fight.

Awesome is worth fighting for. This is awesome. So get ready to fight.

I’m not even out of the gate yet, and I’ve already got my gloves on and my mouth guard in position.

Hands up. Head down. Adrenaline pumping.

Huh? Wha?

Have I really gotten to the point where I am expecting a fight from jump street?

Gah.

What a completely puketastic way to start something.

And not only do I expect a fight, I’ve also got a huge chunk of my energy set aside. For a fight that may never come. And is probably imaginary to begin with.

Which means I have way less energy to invest in the awesome.

Sucksucksuck.

This idea that fighting brings more awesome just isn’t jiving with me.


Exhilarating and effortless

I take a lot of my cues from music and sound-ey stuff. And by a lot I mean pretty much all of them.

And here’s what I know in my bones to be absolutely, totally true.

My best music has never come from fighting. My best work is never done when I’m pushing against something.

The biggest gorgeousness always comes from being in the flow.

When I’m in the studio banging a drum or gonging a gaggle of singing bowls, I’m just following the sound from one second to the next.

One beat leads to another beat. One bowl flows to another bowl.

When I follow that flow, the results are exhilarating.

And the process? Totally effortless.

But when I try to fight it, I lose it.

I screw up the rhythm. Or I bang a few bowls in sequence that just sound uber blech together.

And it happens every single time.


Trying it on for size

The deliciousness of sound and music deeply depends on flow.

I’m willing to bet that the same deal applies to life.

I can’t fight it and flow with it at the same time. So every time I get ready to do something I have to decide how I’m going to rock it.

And now I really get that I have a choice here. Which is pure awesomesauce.

So I’m trying a little experiment.

I’m playing with flow.

I’m taking what I know to be true for sound-ey stuff and seeing how it shakes out in other areas of my life.

I’m watching what happens when I set aside fighting-for-it in favor of flowing-with-it.


With curiosity and shaky knees

And I’m approaching this whole thing with a spirit of curiosity. And a little fear.

Because by now my mind has given up the flip flopping. Now it’s just bouncing up and down anxiously on its chair.

What if everyone’s riiiiiiiight?
What if you really do have to fight for it?
And what if you crash and burn and fail miserably if you stop fighting?

I’m pretty sure that won’t happen. My gut says I can trust this.

But if, by some chance, I’m wrong, at least I’ll have the energy to pick myself up and dust myself off. Since I won’t be wasting it all gearing up for one fight after another.


Riddle me this

What’s your take on all of this? How does fighting and flowing show up in your life?

And are you down to try this experiment with me?

Let me know. We can rock this thing together.

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22 Responses to In The Fight Or In The Flow?
  1. elizabeth
    May 6, 2010 | 11:56 am

    I feel like I’ve been fighting with my services page – or at least fighting to get it written and posted. Last week, I decided that I was tired of fighting, so I am just letting it happen as it will, even if it takes longer than I might want. It seems to be helping, because at least I’m getting ideas on how to finish it now. So, I guess I’m experimenting with you.
    .-= elizabeth´s last blog ..oh, nosy one =-.

  2. Grace
    May 6, 2010 | 1:18 pm

    An experienced river-rafter never fights the current.

    A top-notch surfer never fights the wave.

    Or if either of ’em do, guess what? They wipe out.

    When the sailor fights the wind, the boat capsizes.

    The thing is, though, we’re taught to work hard, fight for what we want, and if at first we don’t succeed, try try again!

    As you say – what an incredible energy drain.

    Your mind is going to keep flip-flopping (and I have this lovely image of a brain running around in really worn-out cheapo flip-flops!). The thing is, why listen?

    Thanks, Fabeku! 🙂
    .-= Grace´s last blog ..Mind games =-.

  3. Wulfie
    May 6, 2010 | 1:34 pm

    Right on!

    For years I struggled and fought with this ‘thing’ that I loved and wanted to get really involved with so others could know more about it too. The more I fought, the harder it got. So just recently I told it to eff off and, like magic, it went away. (or mostly, since things we love never go all the way away.) I put everything about the struggle with the thing away in boxes and I went in a whole different direction. I started learning something new and different. I started having fun. And you know what? That sneaky little thing has started to come back but in a way that’s totally stress, struggle and fight free. YAY!

    Sometimes it’s hard NOT to fight. We’re almost programmed for it from birth really. It’s nice to know that we don’t HAVE to.

    @Grace Laughed my butt off at the image of a brain in flip flops.

  4. Leila
    May 6, 2010 | 1:35 pm

    I keep thinking about what flow means to me – and recollecting those times when I have experienced flow. I am still struggling to clarify!
    For me – going with what is easiest and what I naturally enjoy is more likely to bring me in alignment with my flow. That’s how I see it. I enjoy writing, no matter how flawed, I enjoy it – so I allow myself to do it no matter how imperfect. The need to express myself right now, flaws and all, is greater than the need to wait and hide away til everything is good.

    But my strongest memories of being in flow are from over ten years ago when I was at drama school as an actress training – when all the work, research, prep had been done in relation to a role, the body would somehow almost magically take over and I would find new nuances, beauty from moment to moment effortlessly…It was magical, divine, easy and came from lots of time invested in playful exploration and discovery…

    But experiencing this in other areas of my life and knowing where to invest one’s energy to experience flow seems much less easy and cloudy for me right now!

    Can you say anything about how you shifted from fighting with yourself to surrendering and allowing good stuff to come through you – irrespective of worry? Was it a mental shift of perspectives or a practical one – ie you wove a more supportive and heartful approach/mantra into your daily practise that helped you to soften and surrender and feel safe in your risk taking?

    Yours ever curious and grateful for your posts!

    Leila
    .-= Leila @SunflowerLeila´s last blog ..A brief interlude today =-.

  5. Tami
    May 6, 2010 | 2:09 pm

    I’ll experiment with you! I’m really feeling this post. When I started nursing school, I couldn’t believe how everything sort of clicked into place. It DOES feel like I’m in the flow, but I have to say, that this can be scary!

    I was never really taught that you had to fight for what you want, but I WAS taught that nothing ever comes easy – which is pretty much the same thing, I suppose. But this whole nursing thing…it IS coming easy. Not effortlessly, but there is a flow there.

    The challenge I’ve been having now, is sort of fighting against that flow. I have this gut feeling that there is something MORE on the horizon, but I’m having issues trusting that nursing school is the river that’s gonna take me there.

    So I stick my paddle in the water, and get all wonky and turned around. Or I try to paddle faster, or slow myself down. Basically, I just interfere with the flow any way I can! Which is what happens when I try to over think things.

    Sometimes being in the flow is just so bizarre feeling. Especially for people who have been struggling their whole lives, and all of a sudden you have this sense of being carried in the right direction. You almost have to retrain yourself to understand that this is okay…not everything has to be a struggle. This is a good thing. Don’t freak out.

    So…I’m trying to do that. Thank you for your amazing post, it really struck a cord.

    Here’s to not sticking our paddles in the water!!!

  6. Dave
    May 6, 2010 | 3:56 pm

    Here’s to flow!

    I was nodding so much while reading this my head nearly fell off 🙂

    I’m so tired of the whole fighting/war metaphor that gets dragged out every time somebody wants to inspire me.

    Just because something involves difficulty doesn’t mean we have drag it into the nearest alley and thrash it out.

    The big breakthroughs in my life all came about as a result of surrendering which, last time I checked, is pretty much the opposite of fighting.

    Thanks for the great post Fabeku!
    .-= Dave´s last blog ..Intuition =-.

  7. Lisa Baldwin
    May 6, 2010 | 5:26 pm

    Yes, yes, yes. Thank you.

    These adrenaline-based battle metaphors are useful sometimes – the rescuing of kittens, for example – but not so great as a daily work habit.

    I propose a rewrite. How about…

    Anything worth having is worth holding space for.

    Yes, much better.

    xo
    .-= Lisa Baldwin´s last blog ..Value (or, choose your own treasures) =-.

  8. Katie Schroth
    May 6, 2010 | 7:24 pm

    I have been reflecting on this concept for months – literally.

    I just use a different term – rolling with it.

    The more I roll with it, the easier things seem to go. Sure it still requires work and effort, although I hate to use those words because somehow they seem negative. People moan and groan about going to work, putting in a little extra effort.

    Yet somehow going with the flow, rolling with it, makes it fun, joyous and in many ways exhilarating.

    Cool stuff just seems to happen.

    I am ready to experiment with you. I am ready to flow – easily, gracefully, delightfully.

  9. Catherine Caine
    May 6, 2010 | 7:28 pm

    You have to know when to stop fighting and just go with the flow. I felt stress just ROLL away from me when I thought about that. Thanks, Fabeku!
    .-= Catherine Caine´s last blog ..My Awesome April results, and an Announcement =-.

  10. Bridget
    May 6, 2010 | 7:51 pm

    Dude…
    Okay…a caveat.
    Anything worth having is worth asserting one’s self when assertion is required.

    But otherwise….awesomeness… and everything worth having is totally worth getting into flow for…

  11. Patty K
    May 6, 2010 | 8:40 pm

    I’m with you. Hate the whole aggressive/violent fight imagery (and the feeling that goes with it). Flow rocks!

    The only part of the fight idea that appeals to me is that it’s possible to get into fight mode pretty much on demand, while flow is a whole lot more elusive. I sometimes find myself fighting because flow is just not happening.

    If you have any tricks for finding instant flow, I’d love to hear them. 🙂
    .-= Patty K´s last blog ..Our wild escape from Mexico =-.

  12. Grace
    May 6, 2010 | 8:57 pm

    I have to give you both thumbs up here Fabeku!

    I think sometimes we fight too hard. I have learned through my drumming classes that the “older” students have a harder time learning to play the music. The teacher tells us to keep our minds like a child’s.

    Why is that? Less stuff to fight, more flow accepted, better music shared! A child is not so worried about right or wrong or failing or going off beat. You loose your place…you join in again! That’s all! That REALLY is all!

    Sometimes the biggest battle ever fought is the one where you decide not to fight but listen….and when you listen…you play!

  13. Bettina
    May 7, 2010 | 12:33 am

    Yo!
    You just single handedly served a blow to my over bearing Little Voice! 😉 just kiddin’ seemed fitting.
    I have been fighting for the last two years. Knocked down the umphtieth time, bruised, battered and exhausted I finally gave up and surrendered.
    That was about two weeks ago.
    Now there is flow and flow only. Miracles happened!
    Your free download helped big time. It’s now flowing enough to book you fully soon 🙂
    I can’t remember via who on Twitter I came past to you, but whoever it is I am eternally grateful.
    I agree with you. Fighting is not worth it.

  14. Kai
    May 7, 2010 | 7:43 am

    What an amazing post. And I couldn’t agree with you more!
    It took losing all of my energy and still not getting anywhere to make me realize it just wasn’t working out for me.
    So Fighting and I decided to see different people.
    I am so definitely up for experimenting!

  15. Megan
    May 7, 2010 | 9:09 am

    Now that you mention it, about the music flowing, that is SO true. Whenever I try to write something, or to paint something it comes out all crap. It sounds/looks forced and bossy (for writing) and not like me at all. But, when I let myself just begin right where I am and follow where that takes me (which means not always starting at the beginning don’t cha know) it comes out naturally, lovely and even I’m taken aback by it. Can’t tell you how many blog posts I begin with NO idea where it’s going to end up (this week’s Monday post was like that).

    BUT, having said that, I find it much more difficult to apply in life, don’t you? I mean,you said you start tensing up for the fight before you even realize it. How do you keep on releasing the tendency to push? That’s the question!

    Oh, and how do you tell the difference between “ok, it’s time to act,” and the kind of doing that is a pushing and fighting habit?

    Hmmm… I think I’m going to have to think about this for a bit.

    Yours,
    Megan

    p.s. Awesome post!
    .-= Megan´s last blog ..Daring Mondays: Inexorable Life =-.

  16. Tara
    May 7, 2010 | 9:42 am

    I’m up for the experiment!
    In fact, I was just thinking something like this last night. I couldn’t find the words for it, but you HAVE!
    Instead of *pushing* something in, I’ve decided that May is a month of just growing. Naturally, like my garden. I can water + weed + make the soil tasty…but I can’t FORCE something to grow.
    So I’m flowing with it.
    .-= Tara´s last blog ..What Can I do with Hemp Laceweight? =-.

  17. Pauline Esson
    May 7, 2010 | 10:21 am

    I’m so with you. Flow, ease…I’m all for it.
    Enough with the fight already.

  18. Wendy Cholbi
    May 7, 2010 | 1:39 pm

    Thank you for this, Fabeku. From the bottom of my heart. I really resonated with this post. And I’m so so so tired of fighting, tired of gearing up for the fight, tired of maintaining the about-to-fight tension that drains joy out of everything.

    Reminds me of how prevalent the violence/war imagery is in marketing: Target market, email campaign, capturing customer info…that has fight and struggle built in, it’s no wonder so many people feel icky (both on the initiating end AND the receiving end of any kind of marketing).

    I’ve been trying to consciously use different metaphors/words for marketing, and I’m happily joining your experiment to notice where else I find myself fighting, powering through, gritting my teeth to git’r’done. Because the flow state is so much better, for me and everyone I interact with.

    Here’s to flow!
    .-= Wendy Cholbi´s last blog ..WordPress Swimming Lessons are back! =-.

  19. Josiane
    May 7, 2010 | 3:31 pm

    I’m not into fighting either, and I have a feeling that just *thinking* I should be fighting for something I want results into nothing happening, because I don’t want to fight and thinking I should be fighting means I can’t let myself find the flow… Setting all ideas of fight aside sounds much more appealing and productive.
    I love Tara’s growing metaphor, and Lisa’s bit about holding space for what we want. I’m putting them in my pocket, they’ll certainly come in handy during the no-fight-just-flow experiment!
    .-= Josiane´s last blog ..Middle of the night musings =-.

  20. David Cohen
    May 8, 2010 | 1:07 am

    I like the way you explore the words and stay open to rethinking the meaning and I really feel an affinity to what you say about music when I make my drawings. I like to use a pen or a marker, not a pencil, because when the creativity is flowing it happens and the pen knows it and it’s there, frank and beautiful. But when I try to force it, or worse yet “fix it”, that’s when the disasters happen and the magic marker is my zen master showing me my folly in an un-erasable lesson. Sometimes I find a new flow and the drawing becomes a new thing, but it is never again what it was. The amazing thing to me is how sometimes the “mistakes” that I’m occasionally wise enough NOT to fix often end up being the part that I fall in love with later.

    So here is a thought on rephrasing:

    Anything worth having is worth sharing.
    Anything worth sharing is worth nurturing.
    Anything worth nurturing needs love and room to grow.
    .-= David Cohen´s last blog ..When bullies, doubters, and cynics cloud your path meet them with purposeful perseverance #doodle =-.

  21. Jess
    May 10, 2010 | 2:42 pm

    Totally on the same vibe as you here. The other day my Dad came by and his greeting to me was, “How goes the fight?” And I laughed and said, “Uh, what fight Dad? I choose to view my life as something much more enjoyable than a ‘fight’!”

    He just looked at me like I was being strange and shrugged his shoulders. But it’s totally true.

    I gave up fighting (and trying to “make things happen”) and man, ever since? Stepping into the flow has totally served me 1,000 times more than any FIGHT I ever put up. 🙂

    <3

  22. Fabeku
    May 10, 2010 | 6:30 pm

    Dudes!

    Look at all of your brilliant comments.

    Wow!

    So. Much. Awesome.

    After a crazy busy end-of-the-week, weird tooth ouchiness and bringing the bowls to Jen’s retreat, I am finally here, ready to revel in your ridiculous levels of wow.

    @Elizabeth – First, yay for ideas coming in! And yay for not fighting it anymore. The same thing happened to me with the website stuff. When I stopped pushing, the inspiration started popping up. When I pushed? Fuhgedaboutit.

    @Grace – The idea of the rafter? Totally perfect. I’ve been thinking about that exact analogy a lot. Fighting the water, getting smashed into rocks, lots of ouch-ey bits.

    And you’re so right. We’re totally taught to keep fighting, even when we’re being bashed up against the rocks. If we – and by we I mean me – could just get that we’re causing the bashing thing to happen, we could totally stop.

    And I love the cheapo flip flops image!

    @Wulfie – That’s awesome! I’m really starting to believe that if we just let go, instead of pushing and fighting, that some pretty amazing stuff can happen. Your example is a perfect illustration of this.

    For me, being ok with not fighting really pokes at my ability to trust. To trust myself. To trust life. To trust goodness.

    @Leila – What you said about how the body would just naturally discover some magical delicious bits? I felt like that in my bones when I read it. It felt like a huge resounding YES!

    And the how-the-fugg-do-I-do-this? question is a totally smart one. I’d love to explore this more in future posts. But the for-now answer is that it’s a mix of inner stuff and outer stuff.

    Having clear outer stuff that I can do when I get snagged in the fighting stuff is a huge help.

    Drumming. Chanting. Jumping on my rebounder. Playing air drums while blasting a Ramones tune. Going outside to get a chance to scenery.

    That kind of stuff totally helps me to manage the inner stuff.

    And, of course, hanging out with the inner stuff when it’s less flip-floppy and scream-ey has been totally helpful too.

    Looking at it with curiosity, like a wild creature that I’d like to know more about. Which gives me a better sense of where it comes from, how I fall into it, how to turn down the volume on it when it starts screaming, yadda yadda yadda.

    We’ll totally be talking way more about this on the blog. Including some more of the how-to stuff. Because I think that’s so important.

    @Tami – Ooh right! That nothing-ever-comes-easy stuff is like a creepy twin brother to the you-must-fight stuff. It’s got its own spin to it, but the end result is the same. It teaches us to expect stuff to be hard.

    Oof.

    And fighting against the flow? I so get that. Because I totally do it too. I’ve got a blog post cookin’ on the why behind that now. So hopefully it’ll be up here soon.

    But in the meantime, so much of it (for me) goes back to the whole making space thing that I talked about in the Biggie Size It post. When I don’t have enough space for something, I will fight the flow like crazy.

    Not fun at all.

    @Dave – I’m with you about the war metaphors. I’m totally over that stuff. It just feels macho and gross and totally not effective. Here’s to flow!

    @LisaAnything worth having is worth holding space for. That’s totally perfect. When I read that, I feel a warm happy sigh in my chest. There’s room for this good schtuff. The fighting-for-it stuff makes me tense up and geek out. So not sustainable, like you said.

    @Katie – Rolling with it sounds right on to me. And you’re right. Cool stuff really does seem to happen when we just find that flow.

    @Catherine – Woot! And double woot!

    @Bridget – I totally agree with you. I don’t necessarily think of flow as being a passive thing. It can be assertive sometimes. But, even then, it feels different to me than fighting.

    It’s like the river. There are slow, float-ey parts and more assertive rapids. Two different types of flow that totally have their place.

    Good point!

    @Patty – I love what you said about how easy it is to get into fight mode. I felt like that too. Then I realized it was easier for me because that’s what I’ve spent my whole life doing.

    So now I’m playing with the possibility that I can retrain myself. I’d love to find the place where my flow reflex is automagically triggered in any situation.

    I imagine it will take me some time to flip into flow immediately. But I’m open to that possibility.

    For now, playing a singing bowl puts me into the flow with the quickness. It’s probably the fastest way for me to find the flow.

    I also do the AHHH exercise a lot. I wear that one out. 🙂

    @Grace – Great point about kids and the right/wrong stuff. I think that’s where I get tripped up a lot. Worried about doing something wrong and thinking it’s some fatal thing. (Oh,hey, perfectionism. You again?)

    You’re totally right about the drumming too. When you miss a beat, it’s so not a big deal. You just pick it up on the next beat, or the beat after that, or whatever. It’s totally fine.

    @Bettina – Yay you! I’m so stoked that you’re surrounded by flow after letting go. How awesome is that?

    And I’m so glad you shared it here. Because I know it’ll make it a little easier for someone who’s fighting right now to let go just a little and inch their way toward flow.

    I’m totally glad to know the download is helping you too. That makes me a thousand kinds of happy. Yay!

    @Kai – I’m glad you and Fighting are taking a break. I bet you both will be happier as a result. Seeing other people can be good. Especially when it comes to this struggle stuff. And I thought it was brilliant the way you put that. Yay for experimenting!

    @Megan – Ooh, another big YES-in-the-bones moment for me.

    What you said about following what takes you there (to your art or writing or other delicious something) feels like a big key to finding the flow.

    If we can ask ourselves, Why did I want to do this to begin with? then we can get back to that delicious core. And let go of all the weird, scared stuff that’s behind the urge to fight.

    And yep, this stuff can be a real challenge to apply day to day. So instead of putting a ton of pressure on myself to do it (which will just create more fight-ey responses), I really am just going to play with this stuff. Little experiments each day. We’ll see how it shakes out.

    @Tara – Gardens! Water! Growing! I love that. I love the image of it. The idea of it. The feeling of it. No pushing. Just letting stuff grow. Rawk!

    @Pauline – Bartender, can we have 22 shots of ease please? Ease for everyone!

    @Wendy – Ugh. You’re so right about the war-ey stuff in the usual marketing messages. It just feels totally gross to me. The foundation of it. The implementation of it. The side effects of it. Grossgrossgross. I’m glad there are some folks who are teaching this stuff in non-war-ey ways. And I’m glad you’re working on new words for this stuff. And I’d love it if you felt like sharing some sometime. Because I think they’re badly needed.

    @Josiane – Isn’t it wild how the fight-ey stuff seems to mostly end up the same in the end? Nothing gets done.

    Someone may fight themselves into exhaustion and get nothing done because they’re wiped. And someone else gets nothing done because they’re totally not down with fighting in the first place. Either way, it sucks.

    Flowing just seems so much easier, in the long run, to me. And way more effective too.

    @David – Reading what you wrote helped me to realize why I love your drawings so much. They are FULL of flow. They’re like delicious visual transmissions of pure flow.

    And that flow is contagious. I look at one of your drawings and I just feel better. And I feel better because I’m more in the flow!

    No wonder I look at them everyday as a part of my morning routine. Here’s to you continuing to infect the world with the flow bug!

    @Jess – I’m so with you. When I give up the fighting thing and get into a good flow, amazing stuff happens. Stuff that couldn’t possibly have happened if I was fighting to make it happen. There is some kind of gorgeous magic to flow. Which is all kinds of awesome.

    I lovelovelove what every single one of you have shared here. So much smartness. And I’m totally inspired.

    I want to continue to explore this together. So let me cook on it for a second and we’ll find some way to make that happen.

    I’m thinking a regularish series about fighting and flow, where we can all check in, talk about where we’re at, talk about what we’re doing to stay in the flow and all that good schtuff.

    If you (yes, you) have any other ideas on how we can make that happen here, let me know. I’d totally love to hear whatever you come up with.

    I’m just stoked that so many of you are down with experimenting with flow. That is the awesome!

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