Houston, We Have A Misperception

Skeeeeeered!

Skeeeeeered!

I think we have a misperception on our hands.

At first I wasn’t absosmurfly sure.

But I’ve bumped into it four times in the last week.

Four times.

So, yeah.

Something’s definitely up.

And I need to set the record straight.

Fo’shizzle.

So grab a seat. And a drink. And let’s talk.

Zombies! Zoiks!

It all started when I commented on Patty’s uber smart post about product launches. (Read it. It’s good.)

Aside from fawning over her smartnesses, I basically said that sometimes I chew on things too long. Because I’m scared to put them out there.

So I play the I’m-still-working-out-all-the-details game.

Which is where I pretend that gnawing on something *for-effing-ever* is like slathering myself in some kind of secret invisibility sauce that keeps me hidden from the *spoooooooooky* rejection zombies.

Part of Patty’s response was, Fabeku. You? Scared?

And in my head I was all, Yeah! Totally!

Because, really.

The F word

The next day a client dropped the f word on me during a coaching call.

They said they wish they could be fearless. Like me.

Wait. Hold up.
Who are you talking about?
Because you totally can’t mean me.

And then earlier this week I was cookin’ on a few replies to some interview questions from Kelly. The first one was, Where did your fearlessness come from?*

* I think she asks everybody that. But still. There was the f word. Again.

And last night I was talking to a sweet friend who is gearing up for some gigantic changes in their world.

They wanted to know why I’m not scared to take leaps and make bold moves.

<insert sound of brakes screeching here>

Whoa.

Stop the train.

Something’s totally off here taters.

Smoochie smoochie

Here’s the deal.

Me and fear?

We’re buddies. We go way back.

We have a long, messy history together. A sordid, sloppy, tangle-ey kind of relationship.

And it’s not like we’ve broken up either. We still liplock on the regular.

I totally wish I could say I was fearless.

I mean, I have moments of fearlessness. And I love those nuggets like chocolate-dipped ninjas who drum.

But a lot of the time?
I’m scared out of my mind.

I’ve gotten way better at not letting the fear-ey bits stop me though.

So, for me, it’s about knowing how to deal with fear. And gradually changing my relationship with it.

Which is way different than not being afraid in the first place.

The Kit!

When I’m scared I grab a drum.

I whack a few singing bowls.

I take a walk, do my chant-ey thang or stumble my way through some yoga.

I blast a few of my favorite tunes.

Anarchy in the UK by the Sex Pistols. Don’t Drag Me Down by Social D. Pretty much anything by The Ramones.

I have all these go to things that I know help me when I’m scared.

They’re like my own personal Don’t Lose Your Shit kit.

And I lean on them.

A lot.

A running chance

But that doesn’t mean I’m not still scared.

I totally am.

I’m scared that every post I publish will be the one post that no one reads or comments on. Or, even worse, the one that everyone hates like crazy.

I’m scared that I’m not getting my next CD out fast enough.

I’m scared that everyone will think all the new stuff I’m about to rock just sucks hard.

I’m scared because Mom, who’s 74, has started to tell the same the stories again and again. And she doesn’t know she’s doing it.

I’m scared of being forgotten.

I’m scared of a lot of stuff.

Small stuff. Big stuff. Stuff that makes sense. Stuff that doesn’t.

And having tools that help is great.

But that doesn’t mean I’m never afraid.

It just means I’ve got a way to work with it.

It means that I’ve got a running chance of not being totally flattened by the fear.

A different map FTW!

That’s where I’m at with it.

I try not to let the fear stop me. I don’t let it call the shots.

Not in a feel-the-fear-and-do-it-anyway kind of way.

Because that kind of clichéd self-helpiness makes me want to throw up in my mouth.

It’s more of a that’s-not-the-map-I’m-using kind of thing.

So it’s totally not that I’m not afraid.

Because ohmygawd. The long and the sordid and the tangle-ey.

It’s just that I can’t make decisions based on that fear anymore.

What about you?

Where are you at with all of this?

(p.s. Wherever you are? Totally and completely ok.)

How do you deal with fear?

What would be in your Don’t Lose Your Shit kit?

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27 Responses to Houston, We Have A Misperception
  1. Noura
    September 23, 2010 | 11:49 am

    oh.my.gawd. so totally awesome – again! You never cease to blow me away w/ your insight. And yeah, fear? you? NO.WAY.
    Ok, well, maybe… bc we *all* have it.
    What’s in my kit? Busting out some dance moves, a little Qigong (a lot of Qigong), talking to some angels, leaning on my friends… and on and on we go.

    Thank you for being you – because *you* are AWESOME! And I am so glad to know you. <3

  2. KellyBebop
    September 23, 2010 | 12:18 pm

    If I’m using my Don’t Lose My Shit Kit palliatively, it’s filled with ice cream and beer. If as prophylactic, it has notebooks and shiva nata and walks with my dog and my fella.
    .-= KellyBebop´s last blog ..Make a tastier tomato =-.

  3. Sulwyn
    September 23, 2010 | 12:21 pm

    Even calling someone fearless doesn’t mean that they don’t dance with fear on a regular basis. At least me it means that they dance – a partnership – they don’t stumble along letting fear lead and run the show. Unlike someone like me, who has let fear lead for the longest time, I see a fearless person as in a partnership with their fear. And I totally admire that. Because fear is so in control most of the time here. But it is getting better. Knowledge helps. Music helps. Creating helps.
    .-= Sulwyn´s last blog ..A Little Excitement =-.

  4. Julia
    September 23, 2010 | 12:25 pm

    To deal with fear, I email you! So in my toolkit is you for the really big stuff, and for the day to day stuff, yoga, bike rides, cooking something with really pretty colors, making felt, listening to music, and writing it out and tossing the drivel in the recycling. You know, soothing things. Every single day. Fear demands a lot of attention sometimes, but ignoring it just makes it worse.
    .-= Julia´s last blog ..Shoot Foot Reload =-.

  5. Pam/Moon'sLark
    September 23, 2010 | 12:29 pm

    OMG… I’m still stuck in the totally-afraid-to-move-lest-they-notice-and-kill-you mode of being. I am frozen in afraid , he’s my stalker, my monster under the bed, the niggling worry that keeps me from making a move. I don’t have a “Don’t Lose my Shit Kit”… I think I need one … it would have tae kwon do… art journaling messiness… journalling, singing… crying…
    .-= Pam/Moon’sLark´s last blog ..Encouraging in the Rain =-.

  6. Bettina
    September 23, 2010 | 12:34 pm

    Ah, False Evidence Appearing Real! 🙂

    I so totally get you and yup, it’s not that it EVER goes away that fear. The question is how we deal with it.

    I’ve assembled my kit as thus when “somebody” (tongue in cheek) pressed my panic button:

    1) Reach for my iPhone with a certain Fabeku’s sacred sound (which helps me breathe again)

    2) Once I can breathe again (it’s vital, it really is…. 🙂 ) I am forcing myself to remember what fear really is: the anticipation of pain. In other words, something that hasn’t happened YET, it’s not real YET, and it might never be or it might be, who knows. But at that very moment it has NOT yet happened. And that is the truth.

    3) Then I ask myself a couple of questions like:
    …. so if “_______” were to happen, what would be the first step you could do?
    …. and then what would you do next?
    When the “I don’t know” reply comes up, well by now my mind knows there’s no point in throwing that at me because I know that I know what I would/could do if “______” happened. In the beginning when it still came up I used to say: “Fine. What if you did know what to do? What would that be?” And if that still doesn’t do the trick (very rarely) I start listing what I do know to do. Can be unrelated to the subject. As long as my mind gets to remember a couple of things I actually can do and know how to do (like brushing my teeth, driving me car, reading a book, etc)

    4) By then I’ve sufficiently calmed down and an do one step of action towards making sure whatever I’m afraid of doesn’t come to be (if necessary, more often than not those fears are so irrational it doesn’t need action).

    5) I also go back in time and remember a time when I was very successful, did something very well and I wallow in the feeling of what it was like. Totally go back to what it felt like when I did do the “impossible”. Who was there, where was it, etc.

    I have an alternative kit as well though, that is if the fear grips me at somewhat “normal” waking hours, I immediately phone a friend that is knowledgable in taking me out of the fear. Through my business I have a couple of colleagues that are able to help me and a very close friend too.

    Which is as good as any point to thank Fabeku and my mentor Blair Singer for teaching me all these things and providing tools for my box. 🙂

    Oh one more thing that’s in that box …. used it a lot this year, when the fear takes hold of not knowing if there’s enough $$ to pay the rent …. and that is being grateful for what I do have, for example the opportunity to make $$! And that in turn brings more opportunities. Whatever we’re grateful for becomes more. I list 10 things I’m grateful for every morning. Since I do this diligently my life indeed has turned around and I am much more able to cope with the fear.

    Sorry for going on so long … but mastering the Little Voice is my passion and my business 🙂

    Hope it helps!

  7. Tori Deaux
    September 23, 2010 | 1:17 pm

    Since I’m having a fear-fear-panic-picnic sort of day, it only seemed right to comment. Plus, I totally relate to nearly everything here. I could write novels.

    But it’s this:

    “It’s more of a that’s-not-the-map-I’m-using kind of thing.” that I’m chewing on right now. And thinking about if an *actual* map, one that doesn’t insist on going through the fear, or turning aside, or… hmm. I’ll have to think on this. Or draw on it. Or something.
    .-= Tori Deaux´s last blog ..The Fortune Tellers Tent- What’s Your Path =-.

  8. andrea
    September 23, 2010 | 1:30 pm

    love. love love love love. love. LOVE.

    this morning i went to the library to work on some stuff, because i felt like if i stayed home i’d just cry all day. (crying is my throwing up, lol!)

    for me, i’m not scared i’m not doing anything useful. i’m not growing.

    and it so so so so so so SO so helps to know that you are scared too.

    thank you.
    .-= andrea´s last blog ..love list =-.

  9. Laurie Foley
    September 23, 2010 | 1:51 pm

    Dark chocolate. Very dark.
    An awesome pen.
    My soul sisters. (you’re an honorary, Fabeku!)
    And hugs.
    .-= Laurie Foley´s last blog ..The Cure for Blog Hangover =-.

  10. skaja
    September 23, 2010 | 2:02 pm

    This post? Right up there *points*? A huge reason why I admire you so much.

    Sam told me *literally* 10 minutes ago that if I put as much energy into my art as I do everything else, I’d be doing Really Awesome. I kid you not, I looked at him and said that the big reason why I’m still where I am is because of fear.

    I really ought to pay attention to when I do these seemingly fearless things (even if they turn out to be mistakes later). Because if I could harness that energy? Wouldn’t that be awesome?

    (Of course, it helps tremendously that I’m feeling less like *omigodmylifeissohorriblerightnowwhatonearthamigonnado!?!!?!?* as it was over the past couple weeks. Man, THAT was some hard.)

    I am really thankful that you do hit publish on these posts. Extremely helpful. 🙂
    .-= skaja´s last blog ..Messenger Bag =-.

  11. Christine Martell
    September 23, 2010 | 2:14 pm

    Ah yes, the difference between others perceptions and our inner realities! The fear monster is certainly gnawing on my toes and nipping on the tail of the inadequate monster. Always present, although invisible to the others in the world most of the time.

    The more I recognize that the monsters are just part of the reality, are normal and ordinary, the less I allow them to step up and control the action. They’re just another necessary part of the team (like the accountant or any other.)
    .-= Christine Martell´s last blog ..Painting from the Studio =-.

  12. chicsinger simone
    September 23, 2010 | 4:28 pm

    This:

    It’s just that I can’t make decisions based on that fear anymore.

    Beyond brilliant.

    And I totally grok being scared about Mom and memory loss. Mine lived with me for two years and got worse and worse but is safe and happy now in a great facility (NOT that this will happen to you and yours, just saying).

    You will never be forgotten, and your Mom will always be your Mom even if she doesn’t know it.
    *hugs* *a little teary*
    .-= chicsinger simone´s last blog ..Saks Fifth Avenue That is all =-.

  13. Elana
    September 23, 2010 | 4:55 pm

    Oh Fabeku! Or should I say *Fearbeku? I think it’s wonderful that you’re able to make decisions that aren’t fear-based. And it’s always a comfort to know that admirable and artistically gifted people like you also experience fear. Fear can be a great tool but rarely is it a useful compass. My personal Don’t Lose Your Shit Kit? Lots of music. Lotsa.

  14. andrea
    September 23, 2010 | 6:09 pm

    oops! i missed a word in my comment.

    i meant to say:

    for me, IF i’m not scared – i’m not doing anything useful. i’m not growing.

    xoxo
    .-= andrea´s last blog ..love list =-.

  15. Marianne
    September 23, 2010 | 6:31 pm

    Amen.

    I’m scared right now. Scared that people won’t sign up for this big dream of mine, this thing that I’ve poured my heart and soul into. This thing I’ve put myself on the line for.

    So I go for a walk.
    And read your post.
    And breathe.

    And keep on.

    Thank you.
    .-= Marianne´s last blog ..The Art of Non-Conformity =-.

  16. Patty K
    September 23, 2010 | 6:42 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. When we see people being their awesome selves out there in the world, it’s so easy to assume that they’re fearless.

    The don’t lose my shit kit? Mine has questions. What’s the worst thing that could happen? How would I deal with it? And memories. Looking back at when I did something terrifying for the first time (like public speaking) and how I lived through it. And if all else fails…there’s always bourbon. 🙂
    .-= Patty K´s last blog ..You’re a WHAT Eww… =-.

  17. Lisa
    September 23, 2010 | 7:48 pm

    Freakin’ awesome. As always.

    Careful with smooching with fear. She REALLY gets around (I know – she was just here today).

    I deal with her in different ways (to keep both of us on our toes) but right now I’m just dancing. Dancing with those fears of my family issues, of upcoming workshop release, of health issues…dancing round and round. Fear keeps steppin’ on my toes (on purpose. I can tell.) but it’s not going to stop me from dancing.

    Or doing yoga.

    Or getting that website up.

    It may stop me from having a total bitch-fest with my family. But that’s probably a good thing. 🙂

    THANK YOU.
    .-= Lisa´s last blog ..For You and For Me =-.

  18. David Cohen
    September 23, 2010 | 9:28 pm

    Gee whiz, are you peeking into my dusty closets where the unpublished web redesigns are? Where the book notes and the product concepts and the poems are kept under a pile of big woolly blankets? Naughty.

    I think right now my Don’t Lose Your Shit Kit is crammed with magic markers, an IOU from my shweetie for a foot rub, and my many many lifeline calls to my lifelong friend Dave Bailey.
    .-= David Cohen´s last blog ..Harry told me- Work is Personal =-.

  19. Tammy Vitale
    September 24, 2010 | 7:46 am

    I write a blog on whatever’s bothering me – ostensibly for others, but usually for myself – and by the time I”m done it’s pretty much resolved itself. So I guess I need a netbook and freeWifi somewhere in my kit!
    .-= Tammy Vitale´s last blog ..Harvest Moon- You Reap What You Sow- What Are You Planting =-.

  20. Alexia
    September 24, 2010 | 10:41 am

    “Not in a feel-the-fear-and-do-it-anyway kind of way. Because that kind of clichéd self-helpiness makes me want to throw up in my mouth.”

    Yet again, we’re on the same wavelength here 🙂

    So, what’s in my don’t lose your shit kit?
    – prevention: my morning pages
    – a little of losing the shit. because if I don’t vent the system, it builds up too quickly for me to do a thing.
    – Quick ego-boosting session w/ the hubster telling me how wonderful I am
    – and diving in for just 5 minutes of the thing I’m afraid of. usually that squashes the fear & I keep going but if not, I’ve done 5 minutes of the thing. 🙂
    .-= Alexia´s last blog ..Video Challenge 6 – Distortions… =-.

  21. Mr. Pants
    September 24, 2010 | 12:17 pm

    It’s so helpful to read when people I respect and admire write about their fears. Not in a bring-em-down-to-my-level way. More like, “Holy crap we all feel this stuff no matter where we’re at.”

    My personal Freddy Kruegers:
    • This illustration is gonna suck. I know it this time. It’s gonna suck and I’m gonna be exposed as the no-talent bum I really am.

    • No ideas. And they’re not coming fast enough. Been on 30 walks, yoga, meditation, watched cartoons, shopped… nothing’s coming, is it?

    • $12,000 for braces? Maybe I need a “real” job. And insurance.

    My personal don’t lose my shit kit:

    • Breathing. Zen meditation.

    • Running. I think focusing on not getting run over by Bo & Luke Duke out here in the sticks wipes out all those other fears.

    • Driving. Maybe all the way to Mexico.

    • Music. Cranked. 11. The Jam. RHCP. AC/DC. Van Halen. Chickenfoot.

    • My wife.

    • My internet pals. Hi, internet pals. Thanks.

  22. Joan Bright
    September 24, 2010 | 1:03 pm

    Don’t Lose My Shit Kit(OMGoddess I love that!) ..Facebook Friends. Drums. My udu is especially calming to play, but whichever one wants to leap into my hands at that moment…listening to drum music or any music. Now I’ve added chanting (thanks Sue O’Kieffe and Fabeku, to name just two who’ve encouraged and put up YouTube links to easy-to-follow-chant vids), drum circles, drumming community friends, live music, plentifully abounding in the area where I live, being playful and spontaneous (not a normal thing! for me, breaks through fear amazingly and with great big boom-y success when I go for it, though).
    Reiki, self-treatment of from someone else. Cooking a nice meal and then sharing it.
    Think I need to add some more, but that’s what I can think of, for right now.
    Praying sometimes helps, too.

  23. Dave
    September 24, 2010 | 2:59 pm

    Oh, loved this post. Remember Pig-Pen from the Peanuts cartoons, with his cloud of messiness following him around? That’s me, but with fear instead of dirt. (mostly)

    I love that Anarchy in the U.K. made it into your fear kit!

    My kit?

    Drawing, doodling, scibbling–lots of it.

    Spending hours surfing–when I’m near a ‘not-freezing’ ocean, anyway. (Yes, I’m talking to you Seattle).

    Listening to guided imagery, energy clearing, meditation type tracks on my ipod.

    My latest fear buster, and also my favourite–painting layer after layers of backgrounds for future paintings. I get to be all cozy and artsy with paint, and have none of the pressure to make ‘pictures’ happen. They can come later when I feel more up to it.

    Cheers
    .-= Dave´s last blog ..Faces and necks- edges and light =-.

  24. Sue
    September 24, 2010 | 8:10 pm

    My Don’t Lose My Shit Kit includes sketch pads and black sharpies for daily doodles, long walks in nature, brisks walks up and down hills to get my heart pumping with something other than adrenaline, drumming and rattling and whatever other kinds of sound i can create, popcorn without butter but seasoned with garlic powder and cayenne pepper, reaching out to good friends far and wide, photography, listening (to birds, to this ninjaguy’s great cd with singing bowls, to Lady Gaga), and of course making mandalas

  25. cat
    September 25, 2010 | 10:40 pm

    Everyone feels fear, some of us back down to it and others take action despite it. I think people who are “fearless” are the people who do feel fear but work past it, go around it, break through it, etc. So in that sense, you are fearless.

  26. Kylie
    September 27, 2010 | 1:11 pm

    Oh, so many wise people with nice friendly ways to not whack yourself over your head with your own fear! I let myself be scared.
    I allow myself to not have to overcome it now.
    I call people up for help if, for some reason, I need to deal with it now.
    I recognize that it’s a constant process. It’s never gonna be over. Evah.
    .-= Kylie´s last blog ..authentic happiness the book =-.

  27. Fabeku
    September 29, 2010 | 4:38 pm

    #1. You are all the awesome.

    #2. You have some of the best Don’t Lose Your Shit kits ever.

    #3. Did I tell you how awesome you are yet?

    @Noura – Dance! Right on. That’s in my kit too. Sometimes the best thing I can do is a little shaky butt.

    @KellyBebop – You are always the smartness. The ingredients of the kit changes depending on how you’re using it… of course! I’ll be back. I need to add a couple things to my kit.

    @Sulwyn – I dig what you said about being in partnership with the fear. It kind of takes away the adversarial ack that gets piled on top of the fear, doesn’t it?

    And I’m sorry for the hard that comes with fear being in control. So much hard. I’m glad you have knowledge + music + creating.

    @Julia – Me in your kit? Yay! I love that. I love everything else you said too. Especially making felt. Even though I have no idea how to do that. It just feels extra sooth-ey to me.

    What you said about ignoring fear? I totally agree. 100%. Ignoring it pretty much never works.

    @Pam – First, tons of empathy for the suck and hard and scary that you’re talking about here.

    Can I just say, though, how awesome I think it is that you’ve already got an extraordinary start to your DLYS kit? It took me forever to figure out what was in mine. And look at how hard you just rocked this? Yay you!

    @Bettina – I love that you have so many clear, practiced ways to deal with fear. Rawk on! Thanks for sharing them there. And I’m totally glad to hear my tunes have helped too.

    @Tori – Sorry about the panic picnic. Ughackblech.

    The map thing was kind of a big deal for me. One day I was up to my ass in fear and I grabbed one of my drums. I was drumming like crazy. Trying to get some space. Trying to figure out WTF to do with the fear.

    Then I stopped drumming and just sat there. And I heard, Use a different map. All of the pieces kind of fell together for me. I saw how I’d been using fear as my map. And how pretty much everything changes by picking a different map.

    I should probably write more about this, yeah? There’s a lot more to be said here, I think.

    @AndreaCrying is my throwing up. We all have our own version of throwing up, don’t we? (grin) And I’m glad the I’m-scared-too thing was helpful. Because, yeah. Totally.

    @Laurie – It goes without saying how much I love your kit, right? And not just because I’m an honorary soul sister. But I love that too. A lot. Thanks you.

    @Skaja – Yay you for knowing what stops you. That you’re clear that it’s fear. Because, oy. I think so many people (me included) go ’round and ’round chasing reasons-that-aren’t-really-it trying to figure out why they’re not doing what they want to do. And extra yays for some of the recent hard going buhbye.

    @Christine – I really love what you said about realizing the fear is ordinary. That feels BIG to me.

    Because how many times do we (collectively) feel afraid and then feel like we’re not supposed to feel afraid? Like it’s a sign that something’s bad or off or wrong or broken.

    From that place it’s a few steps to a full on tangle, I think. We get all knotted up trying to figure out what’s wrong. Which usually just amps up the ack.

    I love how you’re looking at this! Smartness!

    @Simone – I’m totally happy to hear your mom is safe + happy where she’s at. This can be hard stuff. And thank you x 100.

    @Elana – Fearbeku… *snorts*. Right on about the tool/compass thing. And yay for mucho music in your DLYS kit! Yesyesyes!

    @Marianne – I’m sorry about the fear. It can be so hard to pour all of ourself into something and not see the response we were hoping far. Sooo hard.

    But the breathing and the walking and the keeping on? Yes.

    @Patty – You’re totally right. It is so easy to assume someone else isn’t scared. Especially since not a lot of people talk about it openly. Because talking about being scared is scary!

    I love that you have questions in your kit. Good questions have serious superpowers, don’t they? My fear kind of hates when I break out the questions. (grin)

    @Lisa – Fear does get around, doesn’t she? After everything everyone shared here, I can see she’s totally been running around on me.

    I love that you rock the dancing. Even when fear keeps stepping on your toes. (Oy!) Fear loves to stop us dead in our tracks. And I think any movement (of the inner or outer variety) helps to shift things a little (or a lot).

    So yay you for dancing! And some good vibes for the hard stuff that’s hanging around you right now.

    @David – Isn’t it funny (not ha-ha funny) how fear causes us to hide all this awesome away? I think fear must be part squirrel or something, always tucking stuff away for another day.

    I love your kit! And when you mentioned markers, my uber nerd-ey self saw them as light sabers ala Star Wars, complete with those cool light saber-ey sounds. Just sayin’.

    @Tammy – A wifi equipped DLYS kit! LOVE! And yay for working schtuff out through writing. Pure goodness!

    @Alexia – Good point about then venting. Sometimes I get to that place where not venting just isn’t helping.

    It always reminds me of that game kids play to see who can keep quiet the longest. Fear challenges me to see how long I can not vent. And then it just crosses its arms all defiant-like. Blech. Not cool fear. Not cool.

    And more smartness with the five-minutes-of-doing-the-thing. There’s the mojo of movement again. Very cool!

    @Mr. Pants – Those Freddy Kruegers are hard. And scary. (p.s. I recognize a couple of those myself. Different faces. Similar suck.)

    I never thought about the therapeutic benefits of dodging cars. You might be onto something here Mr. Pants! (But Bo & Luke, please don’t hit Mr. Pants. We heart him a lot.)

    And everything else in your kit? Full. Of. Mojo.

    @Joan – Wow! That’s a gorgeous kit you’ve got. Full of all kinds of good schtuff. How cool is it that you have lots of go to goodies to help you out? Yay!

    @Dave – Pig-Pen fear! That says so much, doesn’t it?

    I love all the ways you deal with fear. But the painting this? Just brilliant. What an awesome way to paint without any of the ack. So smart!

    @Sue – I think that popcorn might be a secret recipe for dealing with fear. I will be testing this theory out. Probably extensively. (grin)

    And I was nodding and uh-huh-ing through your entire list. Mighty powerful kit you have there!

    @Cat – I appreciate what you’re saying here. It is kind of interesting to play with different takes on what fearless means.

    @Kylie – I think the letting-yourself-be-scared thing is so smart. And so helpful. Just give yourself permission to be there can be HUGE.

    And what you said about the process? Word.

    Thank you all for sharing your kits and your smartness and your awesome. I appreciate you all like crazy.

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