Biggie Size It.

You want a cup of water. So you measure out eight ounces of gorgeous H2O. And then you pour it into a cup that only holds four ounces.

Three things happen.

  1. The water overflows and spills everywhere.
  2. You probably cuss. A lot.
  3. And, most sucktastic of all, you don’t get your water.

Of course, it’s totally obvious why this happened. You poured the water into a container that was too small to hold it. So it overflowed. And made you drop a handful of mad f-bombs.

Even though it’s usually way less obvious, the same thing happens when you’re working toward having less stuck and more awesome in your life.

It starts with the thing. The ick thing you want to shift. Or the good thing you’re hoping will happen. The thing that’s different – and presumably better and more awesome – than what you have now.


So you do all kinds of stuff to make the thing happen.

You meditate or visualize or dance naked under the moonlight do some kind of ceremony. You do wacky energy stuff. You knock yourself out doing law of attraction stuff. And, on top of all that, you do bunches of practical stuff that should help make the thing happen

And then nothing happens. Zilch. Nada. Zip. The thing is nowhere to be found. It never shows up, even after everything you did.

Or maybe it does show up. You actually get the thing. And then you freak out because the thing is big. And it’s shown up. And it’s BIG!


This freak-out-in-the-face-of-bigness promptly proceeds to push the thing away.

No bueno.

So why isn’t this getting-the-thing thing working the way you wanted it to?

Because your container is too small.

We’re talkin’ containers, yo

You have a container. An inner container. That hangs out at the energy level. Which is really not as weird as it sounds.

This container holds the good stuff in your life. The good stuff that’s already there. The good stuff you’re cooking up now. The good stuff you want when you work with sacred sound.

This inner container is like a holding tank for awesomesauce.

But, like any container, this container has some limitations – namely how much good stuff it can hold. Which – kooky container metaphors aside – directly affects how much awesome you can comfortably allow in your life.

That comfortably bit? Super important.

Because when you want more awesome than you already have, and your container is too small to hold it, things can get hard. And messy.

Like pouring-eight-ounces-of-water-into-a-four-ounce-glass messy.

Three things that are likely to happen and likely to suck

If your container is too small to hold the good stuff you want, it’s safe to say that one of three things is going to happen.

The most likely option is that the good stuff just won’t show up. I mean, how could it? The container is too small to hold it. There’s no room in your life for the thing. So it just never arrives. Because it has nowhere to go.


Or maybe, despite the lack of space, the awesome thing you want manages to wiggle its way in. But it gets claustrophobic. And being smooshed sucks. So the good thing you wanted? There and gone before you can even enjoy it.


And sometimes the good thing will show up. And hang out.

But it’s big. And your container isn’t.

This creates pressure. Which can lead to lots of hard, icky moments.

Moments that – aside from tripping every single issue you’ve ever had around being capable and being enough – are totally overwhelming and filled with one freak out after another.


Lottery nightmares and public meltdowns

Trying to fit more awesome into a container than it can hold really never works. And it never ends well.

Look at the people who win the lottery, and then, a hot minute later, are totally broke and worse off than they ever were. Or the people who get famous and then have too-painful-to-watch public meltdowns. Or people who get into a position of power, and then do all kinds of awful stuff with that power.

And what about the everyday examples?

The person who finds love after dating a ton of toads, and then pushes the new, non-toad-ey person away, even though they’ve wanted a totally toadless partner since, like, forever.

Or the person who has worked like crazy to make some big something happen, only to trip over it or run away from it when it finally does.

Or the person who, despite their Herculean effort, just can’t seem to get ahead, or get past being stuck, no matter what they do.

Lots of different situations. All with the same underlying problem.

A container that’s too small.

Must. Make. Room.

Pretty much every single person that comes to me is looking to increase the awesome in their life. Because that’s just what sacred sound does.

So when you show up, you have your thing. It’s the thing you want or need to live a more radtastic life.

And sacred sound can totally help to make the thing happen.

But you may need to biggie size your container a bit to be sure there’s room to receive this bundle of awesome when it shows up.

Sacred sound can do that too.

So during every session that I do, I spend a lot of time working on gently expanding your container – making sure there’s plenty of room for the great big gorgeous thing you want.

I work with a gaggle of sacred-sound-making instruments to create the absolute perfect container for the thing. So when it shows up, it has somewhere to go.

This means the thing you want and need not only happens, but it happens easily and comfortably. Instead of spilling all over the counter and making you drop a bunch of f-bombs.


Two ways to biggie size your container like a rockstar

I’d like to buy a vowel.
Every letter of the alphabet has its own mojo. And vowels have some special super powers. The letter O is awesome when it comes to biggie-sizing-the-container kind of stuff.

I know it may sound nutty. And it is.

Kind of.

But it works.

So give this a shot and see how it shakes out.

Start by thinking about the thing. Whatever it is you want.

Then close your eyes. Take a deep breath. And as you exhale, make a long O sound – like in the word go.

Feel the sound gently expanding the edges of your container out out out. Keep doing this until you feel surrounded by yummy spaciousness.

And then spend a few minutes in silence. Let that newly biggie sized space be filled by the deliciousness of the thing.

Open your eyes whenever you want. Go on about your business. Repeat as needed.

Wacky? Yeah.
But effective. And easy peasy.

Bowls. Which are containers.

Singing bowls are not only some of my very favorite instruments in the whole wide world, they’re also my absolute favorite instrument to work with when it comes to biggie sizing containers and making room for more awesome.

I mean, they’re bowls. Which are containers.

Slam dunk.

And the sound of a singing bowl not only helps you to expand your container, it can also help to fill it up with the gorgeousness of whatever it is you want.

Double slam dunk.

Here’s a little nugget of sacred sound from one of my uber favorite bowls. It’s nowhere near as cool as playing a bowl in person, but it’ll give you a taste of biggie-sizing-it-via-singing-bowls.

Before you listen to the sound sample, think about the thing.

And let your focus be something like I’m expanding my container so that it’s big enough to hold the thing easily, comfortably and completely. Except in your own words. And with the details of your specific thing, so that it’s a perfect fit for you.

Then listen to the bit of biggie-size-it sound love below.

As the sound of the bowl ripples out, feel the edges of your container getting bigger and bigger and bigger. Making room for more and more awesome.

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You can also download this, if you want.

Right click to save it. Throw it on your iPod. Put it on repeat. And biggie size yourself silly.

Comment lurve

I always dig hearing from you. Because you rock. And you have smart stuff to say. So totally feel free to yack it up in the comments.

Did you play around with the vowel thing-ey?
Or the singing bowl sample?
How did it feel?

What’s the great big gorgeous thing you want?
And is your container big enough to hold it?

And how do you think your life would change if you made room for the thing?

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18 Responses to Biggie Size It.
  1. Lucy Viret
    August 5, 2009 | 1:35 pm

    I tried the “O” experiment. I am not good with these things – I always feel ridiculous sitting in front of my computer making noises, never mind whether it’s you or Havi asking me to do it – but I did feel a little spaciousness.

    I think I will try the singing bowl sample too! 🙂

    This post really – resonated with me, to use a sound-y word. It’s space both that I need most and that I don’t have enough of. Physically and emotionally and mentally and spiritually and in every damn way. Finding ways to create more? Awesome.

    (I love that you use that word so much. It’s my favourite word!)
    .-= Lucy Viret´s last blog ..What if… =-.

  2. Leah
    August 5, 2009 | 1:45 pm

    ooo! (ha, no pun intended there!) I tried out the vowel-thingy and I loved it! Felt more spacious right away. Totally cool! Felt like I’d need to do a lot of ooo-ing to get to the right size container, but it was a start. Thanks, Fabeku!!
    .-= Leah´s last blog ..Movin’ and Shakin’ =-.

  3. Katie Schroth
    August 5, 2009 | 1:48 pm


    Ahhhh, oops, Ohhh – that felt amazingly good!

    I used to look at singing bowls in the store and be intimidated. Then you tweeted about your bowls and I took the dip into bowls. It’s been simply amazing. I guess there is no turning back once you feel their amazing mojo.

    Thanks for sharing.


  4. Lucy Viret
    August 5, 2009 | 2:14 pm

    Wow. The singing bowl excerpt was even MORE amazing. I clearly should have tried that first!

    .-= Lucy Viret´s last blog ..What if… =-.

  5. Goddess Leonie
    August 5, 2009 | 3:57 pm

    love love LOVE this. you are so magic, dear fabeku!
    .-= Goddess Leonie | Goddess Guidebook´s last blog ..Conception story-time aka How The Pregnant Goddess Came To Be =-.

  6. Amy Crawley
    August 6, 2009 | 6:31 am

    Great post Fabeku,

    I’ve always enjoyed saying “ohm” and feeling the vibration in my body. It is very powerful indeed. I tried the singing bowl sample and repeated my biggie desire. That brought a smile to my face and made me feel confident that I can attain it.

    Thanks for helping expand my energy.

    .-= Amy Crawley´s last blog ..A Wonderful Day for a Whale Watch =-.

  7. Gina
    August 6, 2009 | 9:08 am

    Wow. I love this. Of course, a much-needed exercise to do as I’m biggifying my own life at this very moment. I am SO doing this. Ooooooooo…..

    Also made me think how I try to do this with shiatsu. Soften up the rigidity in a person’s body so they can expaaannnnnd… for very much the same reasons. Get the gook and dust off the harp strings so they can sing….

    .-= Gina´s last blog ..Stuff I Swear By – Kale =-.

  8. Hiro Boga
    August 6, 2009 | 9:26 am

    Fabeku, this is brilliant! I loved the singing bowl, with it’s great, outward-rippling sounds. Thank you!

    Love, Hiro
    .-= Hiro Boga´s last blog ..Remembering Hiroshima =-.

  9. Heidi Fischbach
    August 6, 2009 | 9:52 am

    This is simply fantastic, Fabeku. A lovely article and powerful information. I’m all over it!

  10. Mynde
    August 6, 2009 | 12:17 pm

    Great timing, with the eclipses and all. Biggifying your container is right in line with shifts and changes being stimulated in our skies. Thanks, as always, for your insightful posts that come with delicious audio bonuses :oP

    I turned the speakers up loud and let the sound permeate my being and home space too! Grats!
    .-= Mynde´s last blog ..Social Media Takes A Dive =-.

  11. Fabeku
    August 6, 2009 | 5:03 pm

    Thank you all for your awesome comments. I dig you guys so much.

    @Lucy – I’m glad you gave both of these things a shot. That’s awesome. And I totally get the feeling ridiculous thing. I feel like that sometimes too. Especially when I’m doing some wacky sound-ey thing and one of my rabbits gives me a look like I’m totally nutty. I can only imagine what they think.

    @Leah – Yay for more-spacious-right-away! Woohoo! And I think it’s so cool that you have so much awesome that you need a huge container. How delicious is that?!

    @Katie – No turning back is right. I started with one bowl. One! Now I have 30+. Sometimes I swear they reproduce at night when I’m sleeping or something. Where did all of these bowls come from?

    @Leonie – Right back atcha. You’re all kinds of magic too, you!

    @Amy – Om/Ohm/Aum is gorgeous, isn’t it? And you’re totally right. You can feel the goodness of this bit of sacred sound vibrating in your body. I like to play around with sounding it at different pitches, and seeing where each one lands. And I love that the singing bowl snippet gave you some confidence for the thing. Woot!

    @Gina – Can I just say a big yay for life biggification? And that’s an awesome parallel you drew with the shiatsu. There are so many links between sacred sound and bodywork. They both work at so many different levels. And I love the image of clearing the gook off the harp strings!

    @Hiro – Yay you dug the bowl. It has a gorgeous sound, doesn’t it? It’s at least 200 to 300 years old – a larger Thadobati-style bowl. It’s as smooth as silk too.

    @Heidi – I’m glad the information struck a chord for you. That’s very cool. Thanks for taking the time to let me know. I appreciate that bunches. I know it was a whale of a post, but this is a pretty big topic.

    @Mynde – You know, I never even thought about the starry stuff that’s going on right now. I have to admit, I’m about as astrologically clueless as it gets, so I usually don’t think about stuff from that perspective. So I appreciate you bringing that element into the discussion. That strikes me as mighty interesting!

  12. Nathalie Lussier
    August 6, 2009 | 5:21 pm

    Wow! The metaphor itself gold! The rest of the post is like icing on the cake. (Yum!) I think you’re really getting into the groove, because this was so useful for me right now. Thank you Fabeku!
    .-= Nathalie Lussier´s last blog ..International Green Smoothie Day =-.

  13. chris zydel
    August 6, 2009 | 11:19 pm

    Dear Fabeku,

    This is totally cool and such an important concept. I love that whole idea of allowing and inviting the container to get bigger so that you can bring more goodie goodness into your life.

    And that gorgeous big bowl sound…… oooh la la!! I am swooning with ripply delight!!

    Thanks for being the shaman sound rock star that you are!!

    Love, hugs and glitter,
    .-= chris zydel´s last blog ..How I Learned To Trust In The Creative Process – Whether I Like It Or Not =-.

  14. Fabeku
    August 11, 2009 | 1:18 pm

    @Nathalie – I’m totally excited to hear the post was both useful and timely for you. Yay! And did you say cake? Mmm, cake!

    @Chris – Yeah, making room for the awesome that we want is pretty important. It can really be the difference between getting it and not getting it. Since I started working with consciously and purposely biggie sizing the container, both for myself and for the people I work with, all kinds of gorgeous stuff has happened. And I’m glad you dug the bowl too. It’s a pretty amazing bowl.

    Thanks again for all of the comment lurve. You guys rocks!

  15. Simrat
    August 28, 2009 | 10:35 am

    It’s all about capacity. That’s my word for it. Well, actually my teacher’s. 😉 But container is perfect too!

    i loved listening to your singing bowl. Thank you. And having recently found your blog, I’ve subscribed. 🙂
    .-= Simrat´s last blog ..Reminder – Carnival of the Horses! =-.

  16. Anna
    August 31, 2009 | 1:03 pm

    Another super-late comment. But I have to say. HUGE EPIPHANY. I never thought about the container size before. *Thank you.*

  17. Tracy
    September 8, 2009 | 11:53 am

    I listened to the bowl sample, which I experienced as being simultaneously soothing and unsettling–something about the scariness of intentionally making room for a big thing, knowing that I can’t control exactly what it will be or how it will show up. And as always with singing bowls, afterward I felt like every cell of my body was totally awake and alert. Whether it wanted to be or not. 🙂
    .-= Tracy´s last blog ..Retrospective: Poetry and Process =-.

  18. Fabeku
    September 12, 2009 | 8:43 pm

    @Simrat – Thanks for digging the blog. I appreciate it. Capacity is definitely an element of this. My relationship to capacity is more about the ability to deal with what’s in the container itself. In other words, I start by making space and then the next step is to also increase my capacity to deal with the newly expanded space and the cool stuff that shows up.

    @Anna – Getting hip to the importance of the container was a huge epiphany for me too. It was one of those gigantic AH HA moments that, in a lot of ways, changed me and the work I do. For the better.

    @Tracy – I totally know what you mean about the scariness of making space. When I do it, I try to add something about letting it happen in the easiest, coolest way possible. So that way it can be more fun and less scary. And I’m also with you on the every-bit-of-who-I-am-is-awake-now bit. Singing bowls totally have the quality to them, don’t they?

    Thanks for your comments. Super grateful.

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